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India (one of our fabulous interns) is engaged, is wedding planning,
and is here to tell you all about it…
FOUR TIPS TO STAY SANE WHILE PLANNING YOUR WEDDING
As a soon-to-be “Mrs” (107 days people!), wedding planning is in full force. Maybe I’m speaking too soon when I say this, but the planning isn’t as stressful as I thought it would be. It helps that I have supportive parents and in-laws who are willing to be as involved as I want them to be. Through this process, I have learned a thing or two about staying on top of everything without feeling like I need to poke my eyes out with a dull pencil.
1) Be flexible. I’ve never had a perfect vision of what my wedding day would look like, so suggestions are always welcome. Whenever someone throws out a new idea, I willingly listen and weigh out the pros and cons. I thought for sure that I needed white chairs for the ceremony, but someone pointed out that black chairs were cheaper. At first I thought, “This is going to look like a funeral, why would I ever go with black?!” but then, “…when have I ever remembered the color of someone’s chairs?” In the end, no one is going to care, so why should I?
2) Put your “stake in the ground” on a few key items. My mom encouraged me to pick a few things that really really mattered to me. A few of those things included a peony bouquet for myself and a grand chandelier for the reception. Of course there are other items that matter to me, but I’m only getting married once, and including my favorite flowers and adding a touch of elegance will make the day even more wonderful.
3) Spread it out. Just take it one day at a time. Set goals for yourself. Depending on how much time you have, complete one or two tasks per week for the first few months. My first focus was on the venue, guest list, and my dress. Once those items were nailed down, I concentrated on dessert, decorations, the DJ…and so on. I’ll be honest, things start to get a little more stressful the closer you get. Hiring a wedding planner (such as Grand Occasions!) to help you bring together the last minute details can relieve unnecessary stress and allow you to enjoy the day. From directing vendors and setting tables, to arranging flowers and organizing the bridal party, they will add a new level of expertise that can pull everything together into a seamless occasion.
4) Keep your end goal in mind. If nothing else, remember this last tip. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the details that you forget why you’re even getting married. At first, I only wanted 300 guests and 5 bridesmaids. Now we have a list of 450 people plus 9 bridesmaids (and two junior bridesmaids!). The budget seems to get smaller, and seriously, that’s a lot of people about to watch me trip down the aisle! Then I think, why wouldn’t I want to be surrounded by people who have helped me become the person I am today? It’s worth it to have those dear to me attending, even if it means we won’t have the most prestigious photographer or the fanciest cake.
The closer my wedding day becomes, the more excited I get. It’s not worth it to get stressed out about the beginning of the most exciting days of your life. Surround yourself with supportive people, and keep your perspective on what (and who) really matters. I assure you that no matter what color the chairs are, how big the chandelier is, or what flavor the cake is, you still get to marry the person of your dreams.
Best Wishes, from this Bride-to-Be,